If there’s one thing I love most about the skydiving community, it’s the ability to learn from others. All those times spent on the ground, telling stories when the beer light comes on, watching videos, even learning from others misfortunes. It all makes us better skydivers.
So that’s what’s brought me to this post – which is more of a life lesson that I’d like to share. There are some people out there who I’m sure could benefit from this more than others, but it’s a good read none the less.
This week I spent a few days at home with my family during a time of loss, and a poem surfaced. It struck a lot of us hard at the time, and since, it’s been something I haven’t been able to get out of my head:
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone from the beginning to the end
He noted that first came the date of her birth, and spoke the following date with tears
But he said what mattered most of all, was the dash BETWEEN those years.
For that dash represents all the time that she spent alive on Earth
And now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth
For it matters not how much we own; the cars, the house, the cash
What matters is how we live and love, and how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard, are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left that can still be rearranged
If we could just slow down enough to consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand the way other people feel
And be less quick to anger, and show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect, and more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash might only last a little while
So when YOUR eulogy is being read with your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?
Deep stuff huh? Actually, not really. It’s pretty simple. Live your life how you want to be remembered. Find time for those things that are most important to you, and the people who matter most. Where I really learned a lesson in this one – stop wasting time on those who really don’t give a shit. Trusting your instincts when it comes to character judgement – it’s usually pretty accurate.
My family recently lost one of the most selfless people I’ve ever met. It was always about her family. We can all take a lesson from someone like that…especially in sports like skydiving where it’s not uncommon that people are trying to bring the focus to themselves.
That’s all fine and great, but in the end, is that how you want to be remembered?
A little food for thought from wise poet Linda Ellis.
Love and blue skies!
Ashley
Okay, seriously? Hello timely post!
Life is SO about the dash – and I think as skydivers, we really embrace the dash to it’s absolute fullest in terms of how we live. I think you’re right though, there is a lot to be said for “how we want to be remembered” and there are A LOT of people that bring the focus on them.
Those are the kinds of people I try to avoid at all costs, be it on the ground or in the sky.
Great post! Sorry for your loss – sounds like she was the epitome of all things great and was someone to emulate.
Blue skies, indeed!
Sydney – thanks girl! You’ve got a great attitude, and from what I’ve seen you’re always smiling. That in itself will take you a long way! I’m still learning these lessons every day and when I come across things like this it always reminds me why – not so much for myself, but for those who matter most in my life. Sounds like we both try to avoid those that care only about themselves – I’m drawn to certain types of people, and it’s usually not the ones who try to have to spotlight on them at all times. Can’t wait to chat with you this week. Have a great sushi night – can’t wait to hear about it! Love and blue ones!!